Posting her story on social media for others to see and comment, one woman said she has been with her partner for five years and the couple have been engaged for four months – but with the wedding coming up in the coming months, she not sure what to do.
“So far, I’ve been mostly excited,” she wrote on Reddit. “But there’s a pit in my stomach that I’ve been trying to ignore. Something’s not right.”
She told others: “Any advice is appreciated, especially if you’ve had similar feelings.”
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She said that “for the last two years, I feel like I’ve fallen out of love. The man I was crazy about – I look at him and I feel so angry. I still love him, but I don’t love him like him.”
She learned, she added, that “his mother absolutely hates me too – I know I would marry him and not his mother, but finding that out feels like my breaking point.”
“I am very hurt, ashamed and lonely,” said one bride-to-be. (iStock)
She called his family “horrible people” and said she “doesn’t want to involve myself in this any further, and any possible children we may have.”
Meanwhile, her family members said they “have been so kind and welcoming to him. They absolutely adore him, while any effort I’ve made to be part of his family has been completely shut down. I’m so hurt, so ashamed. and lonely.”
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The economics of the event are troubling, she said.
“I am horrified by the family’s shame and reaction.”
“At this point, we’ve paid $800 for a non-refundable hotel room, a $1,600 deposit on our place, and if we canceled, (we) would be charged another $2,000,” said the woman, using the name . “ImaginaryKick5478.”
She said that the rest of the expenses “had to be covered by the family”.
She continued, “I know people will say that an annulment is cheaper than a divorce, but I really don’t have $4,500 to cover sunk costs.”
“I feel like I’m on autopilot,” one bride-to-be wrote on Reddit, “and time is running out before I crash.” (iStock)
The woman said that “most importantly, I am horrified by the shame and the family’s reaction. My father especially loves my partner and thinks nothing is wrong and would not stand by me if we split up.”
She said that there is no one “who would be a support system in my life, and that reason alone is almost entirely why I went through with the marriage. I feel like I’m on autopilot and time is running out before I crash. .”
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She said she suffered “genuine panic attacks” at the thought of “navigating a difficult break-up while the family is so involved and likely to constantly bring it up and our failed engagement”.
“Leaving” the relationship, she said, “is much easier said than done.”
The woman added, “I’ve brought all these feelings directly to my fiance, and he thinks I’m just being dramatic and upset and that my feelings are going to blow up. I wish he knew that I have fallen out of love. Most importantly, I wish I still loved him the way I loved him before.”
“I’d rather be in an unhappy marriage,” wrote a woman on social networks, than have some things happen to her. (iStock)
She continued: “I feel like being with him was the biggest mistake of my life and I wish I could take it all back.”
However, “walking away” from the relationship, she said, “is much easier said than done.”
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She wrote, “I would be ruined financially and ruined my relationship with my immediate family, and I would rather be in an unhappy marriage than both of those things happen.”
“Is there anything else I can do, or is this just going to get worse?”
She ended her post this way: “I’m trying to keep this relationship going and do what I can to avoid ending it, but I know time is running out. Couples therapy? A weekend away? Is there anything else i can do or will this only get worse?”
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About 1,200 people have so far reacted to the drama. Commenters on Reddit were open and direct with the original poster, with some suggesting the woman already knew the answer to her dilemma.
“I see no other choice but to cancel the wedding,” one person wrote.
“What is never acceptable is to lie and deceive someone – especially a loved one,” said a psychologist. (iStock)
Another said: “Don’t please people and make yourself happy.”
Another said, in part, “I think if you have to ask, deep down I know the answer.”
Someone else elaborated: “The price you pay to get out of your current circumstances will be much, much cheaper than the price you pay down the line with kids in tow (coming from a divorced father of five).
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Another person said, “Sister, you know what’s going on.”
A clinical psychologist recently told Fox News Digital, in response to a different but somewhat similar wedding drama, “What is never acceptable is to lie and deceive someone — especially a loved one.”
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The psychologist said she would “encourage” the struggling partner to “talk privately to every family member involved, starting with the one you’re closest to” – and seek to tell others what’s going on so that the problem is solved.
